Making a long term relationship work isn’t child’s play. You have to invest your time, emotions and sometimes cash into it. Couples who have dated for over 5 years can confirm it wasn’t child play, to make a relationship work you have to be aware of the inevitable lulls or moments of doubts and make plans to counteract them, just because you’ve been together a long time doesn’t mean you can’t still have fun being in the relationship.
So what exactly should you do to make a long term relationship work? Follow the tips below and you;d be good to go.
1. Don’t rush: Enjoy the present and don’t constantly worry about what the other is thinking, there are various stages of a relationship and the third involves questioning your relationship, as you look to make someone a part of your life long-term, you may question whether the relationship (rather than the person) is right for you so going slow diminishes the risk of that.
2. Always be yourself: Being true to yourself is crucial to making a relationship last, being honest with yourself about what you want out of life, and out of your relationship is a must so don’t withhold or dilute your views, it’s not necessary to spill all at once of course, but be mindful to tell the truth when asked and do your best to be upfront.
3. Communication is key: Don’t be afraid to let your guard down and if you’re hiding your feelings, don’t expect your other half to be a mind reader – sadly, that’s not a built in function, it’s a two-way street, so listening is also vital.
4. Embrace flaws/Faults: Once you’re in a relationship, remember the old wise saying “nobody’s perfect”, when you fall for someone your initial attraction can stop you noticing your new partner’s flaws, or at least override them but as things progress, you learn more about each other – both the good and the bad so to get through this stage, you need to be understanding and caring, for your partner to be willing to open up and show the real them is a huge part of showing their trust in you, so be kind and gracious.
5. Balance: You don’t have to compromise your independence, you need to make room for your partner in your life but not at the expense of everything else – friends are crucial too and a good way to balance your personal life.